What is a partner?
A partner can be a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, family member, friend or anyone close to the pregnant woman or new mom. A partner is someone who cares about her and supports her.
When you are quitting or reducing smoking, it helps to get support from the people around you. Women may find it harder to quit or reduce smoking when their partner and others close to them smoke.
If possible, it is best to quit or reduce smoking with your partner or other close friends and family. When you quit or reduce smoking together, you can help each other. You will not be reminded of smoking because you will not see these people smoking or smell smoke on them. If your partner, friends or family want to quit or reduce with you, it is a good idea for them to talk to their doctor, nurse or other health care provider about it. The website, Dad's in Gear
supports dads who want to be smoke-free.
If your partner, friends or family are not going to reduce or quit smoking with you, read our page on secondhand smoke
to learn how to make your home smoke-free.
Talk to those you are close to about the support you need when you are quitting or reducing smoking.
Here are some ways to ask for support:
- Ask your partner and others not to smoke around you, in your home or in your car.
- If your partner smokes, ask them to try not to smell like smoke. They can do this by: washing hands, changing clothes, brushing teeth and using mouthwash after smoking. You can also ask them not to leave cigarettes, butts or ashtrays around the house.
- Tell your partner that you need them to be patient with you. They need to know it is common to feel irritable or cranky when you quit or reduce smoking and when you are pregnant or caring for a newborn baby.
- To lower stress, ask your partner for help with housework, taking care of children and other activities that make you feel tense or anxious. To learn more about stress, click here.
- Suggest that your partner eat healthy and exercise with you for a healthier pregnancy and lifestyle. You can lower stress together and make quitting or reducing easier. Read our pages on exercise and nutrition to learn more.
- Ask your partner to remind you how well you are doing. Make plans to celebrate the success you have on your journey to quitting/reducing with those close to you.
- Ask your partner to help you stay away from people, places or things that make you want to smoke. Ask them to distract you when you have cravings.
Sometimes changes to your smoking can lead to arguments with others. If this happens often, try to make a plan. Tell them that you don’t want to talk about smoking anymore or that you are going to deal with your smoking on your own. Tell your partner not to pressure you because it does not help with your smoking. Instead, ask them to support you and do things that you know will help you.
Not everyone is supportive or understanding when it comes to smoking and pregnancy. Sometimes people may judge you or tell you that you shouldn’t be smoking. Usually people say things because they care about you, but it isn’t always helpful. You can tell people about the other things you are doing to have a healthy pregnancy such as eating healthy, exercising, keeping your stress low and getting lots of sleep.